ADULTERY - nonmonogamous sex. A sexual union between people when at least one of them is married to someone else. Usually has a negative connotation when used in a religious context regarding the broken covenant of marriage. “For those who participate in the lifestyle, adultery is restricted to those instances of outside sexual contact where an agreement or promise has been broken, rather than the swinger ad act itself.” Wallace, Hugh, Another Way: Beyond Sexual Monogamy, Lake Forest, CA, 1997, page 120.

AC/DC - an individual who is bi-sexual.

ANAL SEX - (sodomy) Having one's anus penetrated for pleasure.

ANOLINCTUS - Licking or kissing the anus.

ANOLINGUS - Rimming; similar to anolinctus but refers to actually inserting the tongue into the anus.

APHRODISIACS - anything ingested that supposedly increases or enhances sexual pleasure–chemicals, herbs, food, etc. The word is derived from the Greek Goddess of love and beauty, Aphrodite.

BI-SEXUAL - Male or female who has attractions to both sexes as partners.

B & D - Bondage and Discipline.

BDSM - Bondage, Discipline, (Domination & Submission) Sadism and Masochism. A term used to describe everyone involved in any of these activities.

BONDAGE - Refers to the act of restricting the movement of the person for sexual arousal.

BODY PAINTING - Creative and sensuous way to explore the contours and crevices of your partner's body.

BOTTOM OR TOP - Terminology generally used in the BDSM scene. The passive partner is the bottom while the dominant partner is the top in sex play.

BUTT PLUGS - Anal inserts. Used to expand the anus in size. Can include a “pony tail” which is attached to the plug for “pony play”.

CASTRATION - Removal of the testicles or penis.

CELIBACY - Sexual abstinence.

CIRCUMCISION - Males are circumcised by removing the foreskin that covers the glans of the penis. In the past this surgery was done for hygiene reasons, reasons which today, are unjustified. It is also performed as a religious ceremony.

COCK RINGS - Used for sustaining an erection for longer than ordinary period.

COMPUTER SEX - Computer user networks or bulletins boards where people exchange information about sexual subjects, jokes, personal ads, and fantasies between two operators.

CONDOMS - Devices made of latex, vinyl, and lambskin that cover the penis to prevent pregnancy and STD's.

COSTUMES - Create an illusion of sexual variety, a different sense of oneself and provide visual effects for a theatrical sex scene.

CUNNILINGUS - Oral sex. Fellatio. Licking or sucking the female genital area.

DEPILATATION - The removal of hair. Arousal from hairless genitals.

DILDOS - Genital/Anal inserts. Commonly called sex toys–usually penis shaped.

DISEASES - Venereal diseases (VD). Sexually Transmitted Diseases (STD).

DOMINANCE/SUBMISSION - Top or Bottom; used in sex play to increase the intensity of emotions and bonding of partners.

DOM - Male dominator.

DOMINATRIX - Female dominator, mistress, a woman who is paid to act out an S/M scene with a client.

DOUCHES - (French for shower.) A jet of liquid that penetrates into the vagina or rectum.

EROTICA - Literature or photography that depicts sex in a more socially redeeming manner. Leaves more work for the imagination of the onlooker or reader. Classic erotica includes The Story of O and Anne Rice's Sleeping Beauty Trilogy.

EXHIBITIONISM - Arousal from shocking other with exposure of genitals or having sex in front of others.

EJACULAT - (Ejaculation) Genital secretions. Male ejaculate sperm. Some women ejaculate from the skene glands that surface on either side of the urethral opening.

FELLATIO - (Oral Sex) Mouth to Penis sexual contact.

FETISHES - An object that replaces another human as the primary love object (feet, hair breasts, etc) or inanimate object (shoes, fur, latex, etc).

FRENCH - Using the tongue. Oral genital activities.

FISTING - The insertion of the hand into the vagina or anus. (Sometimes called Hand Balling by gays).

FLASHING - A sexual need to quickly expose ones privates to public view as a shock tactic. Streaking refers to running naked through the streets for attention–usually performed by college students as a break from finals.

FMF - A threesome involving two females and one male.

GANG BANGS - Sex with more than two partners.

GAYS - Attraction for same gender.

GOLDEN SHOWER - Urination on a partners body for arousal.

GLORY HOLES - A barrier between people but at the same time enables them to have sexual contact.

GROUP SEX - Sex involving more than two people.

GREEK - Anal sex (sodomy).

HEDONISM - To live for pleasure only. Refers to the lifestyle of those who plan their lives for the experiencing of pleasure.

HETEROSEXUAL - Sexual attraction to member of the opposite sex.

HOMOPHOBIA - The fear of homosexuality.

IMPOTENCE - Inability to sustain or obtain an erection long enough for penetration.

JEALOUSY - A feeling of anger or envy directed toward someone deemed as a rival for a loved one.

JEWELRY - Commercial jewelry that has been designed for the breasts and genitals. Example: waist chains; pierced jewelry; cockrings; etc. May have meaning. Example: a waist chain is the international sign of a swinger.

KINKY - Any sexually related activity that deviates from regular male/female intercourse.

LAP DANCING - Usually performed by a stripper for a client to comply with no touching rules of club. Facing the client, the person performing the lap dance will put a knee on each side of his/her legs and lean forward so that his/her nose is between her cleavage. He/she is not allowed to caress her as she goes through her pelvic thrusts.

LESBIANS - A woman who prefers sex only with other women.

LOVE - Love is an emotional reaction stimulated by the brain.

LUBRICANTS - A slippery liquid used to facilitate intercourse. Reduces friction. Often used in women who have vaginal dryness or in anal sex.

MASSAGE - Touch, rub to create intimacy with a partner. Face; sensual full body; foot; genital.

MASTURBATION - Bringing oneself to orgasm using manual stimulation.

MENAGE A TROIS - Sexual encounter involving three people. Threesome.

MFM - A threesome involving two males and one female.

NARCISSISM - Narcissists derive sexual gratification from their own bodies or intellect.

NEGOTIATION - Discussion and agreement on activities to be engaged in during courtship or sex to alleviate misunderstandings that otherwise often occur between partners.

NUDITY - Unclothed.

NYMPHOMANIA - Sex addiction by women; abnormal craving for an act or object. A woman's insatiable appetite for sex.

ORAL SEX - Cunnilingus; Lick or suck genitalia.

ORGASMS - The climax to sexual excitement often but not always accompanying ejaculation.

ORGIES - Group sex.

PARTIES - Group with more than one other couple. Organized get together.

PERSONAL ADS - To advertise one's availability designed to attract sex partners by matching compatibility.

PHEROMONES - Chemicals the body releases that can sexually excite a partner.

PHONE SEX - Two or more consenting adults discussing sex with at least one engaging in masturbation.

PICS - (Pictures) Used on the internet for the intent to arouse or peak interests in another person or couple.

PLAY - The consensual acting out of a role or game, sometimes sexual.

PORNOGRAPHY - Intent to arouse sexually. Note: Each state has different definitions of pornography. Still and constantly in debate.

PREMATURE EJACULATION - Not able to control ejaculation long enough to satisfy his partner.

PUBIC DRESSING - Expressions of ones sexuality through genital hair dying, shaving, waxing, bodypaint, glitter and stickers.

PUBIC HAIR SCULPTURING - A pattern or design to pubic hair. Example: Hearts and triangles.

SAFE SEX - Special precautions taken during sex to eliminate contracting sexually transmitted diseases.

SAFE* - Male with a vasectomy or female with a tubal ligation or hysterectomy. (Unable to impregnate).

SOCIAL - An organized get together. To meet or make new friends; to get acquainted in a safe location.

STRAIGHT - One who is neither bi-sexual or gay. Also used by swingers to denote non-swingers.

STRIPPING - Compulsion to rip clothes off voluntarily for an audience.

SOFT SWINGERS - A couple which performs all sex acts except actual sexual penetration.

SWAPPING - Exchange of mates by two or more couples.

SWINGER - One, as part of a couple who engages in recreational sex.

SWINGING - Where two or more couples engage in intimate sexual relations with partners other than their own.

SWINGS - Sex swing designed to suspend from the ceiling or stand. A partner lies on their back in a semi-reclining position with their legs spread and raised in the air.

SYBIAN - Variable speed mechanical dildo device housed in a half cylinder shaped saddle that a person rides to orgasm.

TANTRA - Vedic Hindu doctrine that is designed to extend sexual unity and bonding. Brings more ecstatic and long lasting pleasure than a quick orgasm. Ritualistic sex.

VIBRATOR - An electric or battery operated motor which creates vibration used to create sexual excitement.

VOYEURISM - Watching other people for the purpose of sexual arousal.

WORKSHOPS - Continuing education and training on sexual intimacy, such as Tantra, sex toys, and art of love, etc.

WATERSPORTS - Urine (golden showers) and enemas used for arousal.

YONI - Female genitals. Worshipped for its power to give life.