The best way to explain Couples vs. Groups is to describe an experience that another swinger and his wife had with another couple a few years ago.

At a hotel dance social, we met a very nice couple. She was extremely sexy and my wife got so turned on by this guy, that her shoes were even wet. So around 1:00 am, we asked them if they would like to go up to our room. They agreed. We disappeared from the dance and headed up to the room. The room had double beds so the sexy lady and I got into one and my horny wife and the guy got into the other bed.

Now here is where it all went down hill for me. The lady was a terrible kisser, her feet had a terrible odor, and she did not move. I was doing all the work. If she was turned on, there were no outward appearances. Well I did the best I could. I tried different positions, oral sex and still no response. Ok… the two of us were not a good match!

But in the bed next to me, my wife and this other guy were fucking their brains out. No wonder this guy is going crazy fucking my wife, his wife did not know how to have wild sex. Finally, around 4:00 am, my wife and the other guy wore out. His wife had gone to sleep and was snoring. That made me feel special! Don’t get me wrong, I had fun and yes, I had an orgasm, but I was not going to be chasing her around to try to get back with her any time soon.

Now on the other hand my wife got so turned on by this guy, that they were already making plans to get back together again. All I could say in front of them was 'we will have to check our schedule.' I had to poke my wife in the back to get her to shut up. She finally quieted down and the other couple left.

The second the door closed, my wife wanted to know what was going on. I explained that the woman and I just were not a good match. Finding that perfect couple where everyone is turned on by each other is so hard to find.

We went out with them a few more times. Nothing had changed; she still made no effort to move or even acknowledge my presence during sex. Meanwhile, my wife and her husband were into some great gymnastic sex. Finally, I told my wife that I was not going out with them any more. There was a definite feeling that perhaps she was just having sex with me so her husband could get with my wife.

So how did we solve that problem? My wife still wanted to fuck him. I did not want to be with her. Simple! We had a party. We invited six couples over and it made it easy to be with whom you wanted to be with. One couple we invited, we had not seen in months because my wife could not stand the guy. Her opinion is that he is full of himself. Well I have to say I agree with her about him but I love his wife. She is such a turn on to me. She drives me nuts. We love being together.

See where I am going with this? For my wife and I, groups are great for the simple reason it makes it easier to be with the person you want to be with. I must also report that the guy who was full of himself fell head over heals for the lady I did not like. In fact they both really enjoyed getting to be with each other. We know! We all heard them.

Groups are not for everyone. To some people, it is very intimidating. Men get erectile problems and women feel like they are not sexy. Most of this is mental and we can also add some hormones into the scenario. All of this adds up to a disaster.

I will admit that I have gone to group parties and mentally fallen apart. All day I was so psyched to go and the second I walked in the door to the party, I went haywire. All my eyes could see were beautiful naked people everywhere and I began worrying if my dick was going to get hard. I just fixated on my dick. What made me start thinking about my dick not working, I do not have a clue. The more I worried about performing, the less chance I had for it to work.

A very beautiful woman came up to me and asked if we could get together. I obliged and we went off and found a nice spot to play. Bless her heart; she worked on my dick for at least an hour and it was a no go. I had oral sex with her and apologized for my non-performance. She was very kind to me and said it happens to everyone once and a while. In my head, I was the only one in the whole world that was not able to get a hard on. My wife finally appeared from the back of the house. She came over and asked what was wrong. I explained the problem and she asked if I wanted to leave. We left! I just could not handle it. My dick failed me. I must be turning gay. At home, I took a shower, got in bed, held my wife, and my dick got hard. Go figure.

The tender gender is not immune to this problem either. Ladies get hair, nails, perfume, and make up just right. They get waxed and maybe just a few seconds in the tanning booth. Feeling so sexy and beautiful, they may even skip lunch for that extra thin feeling. New jewelry and shoes go so perfect with that hot, sexy little outfit. Hubby even washed the car and opened the door. Perfect… … …

Why then, 15 minutes into the party, does a woman feel suddenly unexplainably old, fat, and ugly? Ok, so some other woman had on the same dress. So she looks 20 years younger and has a tight little body and suddenly there appears to be a run in your stocking. Congratulations. Poor baby, you have, in your head, decided you are so fat, old, and ugly that no man or woman in the world will want you. You even begin to feel a little nauseous. You are definitely not getting wet tonight.

Your husband even ends up partying with the young, beautiful, little bitch wearing the same dress. How dare him. You begin to get angry with him and he has absolutely no clue he has doing anything wrong. But in your head, he should know. That man has been married to you for years, he should know!

To add more misery, no man has asked if you would like to go party (and why would anyone? After all, you are sending major stay away signals!). It is time to leave. You go find your slut husband and make his naked little ass get dressed and leave. He keeps asking the same two questions. What did I do? and What’s wrong? You wish he would just shut up.

You get home, take off your makeup, take a shower, have a little cry, get in bed, snuggle up to your husband, he holds you, kisses you, and then you make love (All night long).