As a group, you will find people in the swinging lifestyle to be very open and honest about their experiences. Most will even share from their personal experiences to help and show you support.

With that said, do not ask for specifics. The names of other couples they have been with is personal and should be confidential. You might be thinking, “But what about my safety. I want to know if a couple was with someone I think might not be clean.”

The best we can tell you is to not party with that couple again. Hopefully you picked a couple that feels the same as you about safe sex. If they insist on condoms for partying, then you have little to worry about. If condoms are optional with them, then does it really matter if you know the other peoples names? Not really, risky sex is risky sex and you can’t tell by looking at someone if they are disease free.

“But what if they are with a couple we had a bad experience with. We should let them know what jerks they are, right?”

Listen, everyone is entitled to their own opinion, and many couples get themselves in a deep hole by putting themselves in the middle of two other couples. Remember what is important, you and your spouse. Nobody else.

We are not saying that you shouldn’t tell someone about a couple that put you in danger, either physically or by carrying a disease. But there is a fine line between helping and hurting a situation. If you choose to become involved, you must be prepared for any result.

The same is true in reverse. It is never a good idea to talk with other couples about who you have been with. Generalities are fine, and can be quite enlightening in a conversation. But no one really needs to know how Bill could not get erect or how Sarah smelt funny. It’s not only rude, it’s a violation of the other couple’s privacy.

You’ll find that if you do not talk about other couples and refuse to listen to dirt about other swinger couples, you can keep conversations and friendships fun and you can be fun to be around.